How I Make My Average Life….Less Average.

As outgoing as one can try and be, sometimes it’s inevitable to be alone. Some are better at being okay with it and others genuinely are afraid of it. My whole life I’ve surrounded myself with good company and this made me happy, but I started to realize it wasn’t going to last forever. One day I’m going to move out of my family home and into a home of my own, possibly alone. But I realized this need for attention and emotional support from others, rooted from even just being alone in my house when everyone was doing their own thing or when I didn’t have plans on a Friday night and would scroll through social media and quickly find myself in a position of sadness. I would find myself staring at the ceiling overthinking everything instead of just enjoying my own company. Some people struggle with being away from family, friends, or maybe a significant other, and it’s completely understandable. Others may find themselves alone often but are unsure with how to handle it. Over the last six months, I’ve learned a lot about myself. I’ve learned that I have to be happy with my life now, I can’t wait until tomorrow, or wait a year, or five years for my dreams to come true. I’ve learned that being alone isn’t as bad as I made it out to be, I was just thinking about it all wrong. I learned that being the main character of your own movie wasn’t egocentric or narcissistic, it’s a mentality that we all should have. Live your life the way you want to, you have no idea what’s going to happen tomorrow. I’m writing this to help not only you, but also myself, and to realize the little (and big) things that can make your life worth living.

THE LITTLEST THINGS MAKE THE BIGGEST DIFFERENCE

Everyday when I wake up, I look outside my window and although the view may not be the beautiful buildings of New York City or the scenic landscapes of Italy, I’m grateful that I get to wake up today. Yes it’s cheesy, but it helps me realize that I’m worthy and my life has purpose. I struggled with this a lot, trying to understand what my purpose on Earth was, I still do. It can be stressful, trying to figure out what job or profession is meant for you, what skills make you different, what makes you stand out in a room full of people. Just breathe, and take each day as it is, don’t focus on tomorrows problems, focus on todays accomplishments.

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The next thing most people do in the morning is scroll through their social medias, which I will admit, I do a lot. I’ve noticed that this isn’t the best way to start my day because of how toxic these platforms can be. Pinterest is an app that I’d recommend to anyone; it’s the social media without the social. No likes, no comments, just scrolling through a feed full of things that make you happy. I normally see outfit inspiration or pictures of New York City, or maybe friends roaming around the streets living their life to the fullest. This is what inspires me to get out of bed in the morning and love my life the way they do.

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The next thing is MUSIC!! I cannot express to you all enough how much music has changed my life. Even if you aren’t one to typically listen to playlists or even music in general, I HIGHLY recommend creating a playlist with songs that make you happy, excited, and get you out of bed! Once you’re dancing around and feeling that rush of serotonin, I promise your day will automatically become better. I took screenshots of a few of my favorite playlists that always get me singing and dancing, I’ll link them below!

PURE SEROTONIN STRICTLY POSITIVE ENERGY SONGS THAT GET THE PEOPLE GOIN

PLANTS. Especially live ones, the you have to water every day and actually pay attention to. Adding little things to your routine allow you to feel more at ease, I always feel less stressed when I’m able to finish small tasks like watering my plants. I also think adding live plants or flowers makes your room look more homey and cozy which is SO important. Leading to my next point…

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YOUR ROOM! As teenagers, we constantly spend time in our rooms. Let this be your creative space, your hideaway, your place to spend time ALONE. Decorate it the way you’d like and allow yourself to feel content when you walk in. For me, this meant adding things like a clothing rack because of my love for clothing, and decorating my closet with movie posters because of my love for film. A lot of main characters in your favorite movies tend to have the rooms you look at a go, “wow, I want that”, SO HAVE IT.

THE BIGGER THINGS

Now that I have discussed a few minor adjustments you might want to make in your life, let’s talk about the big picture. It’s obviously not going to be a flick of a switch when it comes to “romanticizing your life”, it’s a process. Ever heard the saying, you have to love yourself in order to be able to love other people? Yeah, it’s very true. At this point in my life I’m so happy to be able to love myself. Of course, I wake up with a different insecurity or flaw that I can pick out, but the truth is, most people don’t look at your flaws unless you draw attention to them. I want to give you all a little insight on how I got to this point in my life, where I can genuinely describe myself as confident and happy, because it’s not easy in today’s society. Here are a few major things I do in order to fall in love with life and with myself.

REMINDERS! I have had these two reminders in my phone since April, reminding myself to take a moment to think about what I’m grateful for and acknowledge what I overcame today. Taking everything one step at a time, day by day, is a great way to calm down and remind yourself you can only worry about todays problems, challenges, and accomplishments. So whatever you feel you need to remind yourself, plug it into the reminders app and let it do the work for you. Although this may not seem like a huge life adjustment, this will seriously change your outlook on life, trust me.

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Although the main focus of this blog post is to be able to romanticize your life ALONE, there is a few things I want to mention that can also be done with friends. One of the biggest changes I’ve made in my life is to TAKE RISKS. When you watch that classic coming of age movie and think, damn I wish I was as fearless and confident enough to do this or that, realize that YOU ARE. It’s just in your head! The best times I’ve had are doing things like running through random fields and finding abandon barns or showing up to Waffle House at 2am with my best friends. You will always have an excuse; my parents will get mad (I tell myself this one a lot), or I’ll get hurt, or get in trouble. It took me a while to realize that I genuinely only am promised today and taking risks makes you feel so fulfilled. Please, if you take anything away from this post, let it be this. TAKE THE RISK. I don’t mean sneak out to a party to get wasted or drive your car 120mph on the highway, I mean the things that make you feel a part of that coming of age movie. Go stick your head out the sunroof driving down a tunnel, those are the moments your going to want to tell your kids about.

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DOCUMENT HAPPY MOMENTS. Alright this one is going to seem SO silly, but I promise it helps. I always used to take pictures of myself crying and save them for who knows what reason, but why wasn’t I documenting my happy moments? I would do it with friends but why never alone? I realized that snapping a moment in my life where I felt profound joy or felt pretty without makeup for the first time that week, was something that I needed to start doing. When I would go through my memories and see those snaps, I would smile to myself, recreating that feeling of happiness.

Similar to my last point, TALK TO YOURSELF. Okay hear me out, if you know me directly you know I just love to take videos of myself word vomiting about stupid stuff that people will probably just skip through, but it makes me happy! Even if just one person swipes up and tells me they agree with something I said or it made them smile, my day is instantly made. Even if no one does, talking to my camera just makes me feel less alone when everyone in my house was gone doing something else.

WRAPPING IT UP

Lately, “being the main character” has been something I’ve seen all over social media, people trying to differentiate themselves from others and make sure they aren’t an “extra”. My view is that you can be the main character in your OWN movie, the movie of your life, and that’s all you need. Who cares if your a background character in anyone else’s, as long as you are in love with yourself and your life. The most fulfilling feeling in life is feeling pride in what you do, feeling happy with the decisions you make. You’re never EVER going to please everyone around you, and that is okay. My goal of this post is to show you a few ways I make my average life a little less average, and instead of just going through the motions of life everyday, LIVING my life everyday.

Phew, that was a lot. If you’ve read all the way to here, thank you. As much as I love to write about fashion, this was something that has been on my mind for a while and I hope that you all got something out of this post. A lot of people struggle with being alone, it’s a difficult thing to disgest and a lot of people fear it, but I promise as long as you’re reassuring yourself with things that make you happy, being alone isn’t as scary as it seems.

xoxo, megs